There are certain things we don't like to talk about. We don't like to show people that there's a war going on inside.
You know that pain and sadness that you have when you don't really feel loved, understood, or valued?
You know the times when you don't feel like you have a purpose here? Like no goal? Makes you feel pointless.
How you don't want to wake up because you have no desire to face the day?
I know for me there was nothing that enticed me...I didn't care about anything.
But something along the road let me catch a glimpse of hope and I slowly began to care. This caused me to start looking into depression. I wanted to figure out exactly what was going on in my brain and body. What I found was fascinating.
I learned that if you trace back any one of our fears or limitations, they all branch from two main fears:
1.)the fear of not being loved
2.)the fear of not being good enough
These branches are answers to questions we indirectly ask ourselves like, "Why am I not being loved" and then "how do I know im not loved?" Well whenever we ask ourselves a question, whether directly or indirectly, our brain comes up with an answer.
The answers are often based on something from our past, but they do not have to be. Most of the time, they are not the correct answers. For example, if you ask yourself, "Why can't I lose weight?" You may get an answer like, "Because you're a pig." And you'll stop thinking. Now the answer is totally incorrect, but your brain has to come up with answers to your questions.
Another example:
"How do I know i'm not being loved?" You may get an answer like, "Because my wife/husband isn't doing (whatever)."
The problem is that these answers, these branches, become our beliefs and we focus on the last level of branches. By focusing on the answer our brain came up with, we are successfully kept from seeing the real issue.
But this is just the beginning. Beliefs set off a whole slew of other events within our brain. As a result, we become chemically inbalanced, and often resort to medication. There are mechanisms in our brain that are responsible for maintaining our current set of beliefs. The mechanisms are not negative, they only work with the material we feed them. If the beliefs we create and hold are negative, our results will be negative also.
Our objective is to cause these mechanisms to work in our favor.
One of these mechanisms is the Reticular Activating System. It is like a search engine for data that is relevant to our beliefs. It's what allows us to suddenly start noticing all the cars like the one we just bought. The cars were always there and our eyes always saw them, but it wasn't part of our searching system, so it was spit out as irrelevant instead of being sent to our conscious mind for recognition. It works the same way with depression and any other case. Our brain only let's us see what it is programmed to look for.
The next part we need to reset is the Psycho-Cybernetic Mechanism(PCM). It is a safetly mechanism that keeps us in our programmed comfort zones. This can be an abusive relationship. It might be sickness or depression. Remember, the brain works with the material it is fed...it's not biased to our wants or don't wants. When we step out of this pattern we're used to, this comfort zone, the PCM sends a chemical into our body that causes doubt, fear, and wow...anxiety.
Trying to control our fears and anxieties is futile. Resetting the comfort zone, is the solution.
To your success,
Dennis Andrew
NNOS Studios Motivational Speakers Division
You know that pain and sadness that you have when you don't really feel loved, understood, or valued?
You know the times when you don't feel like you have a purpose here? Like no goal? Makes you feel pointless.
How you don't want to wake up because you have no desire to face the day?
I know for me there was nothing that enticed me...I didn't care about anything.
But something along the road let me catch a glimpse of hope and I slowly began to care. This caused me to start looking into depression. I wanted to figure out exactly what was going on in my brain and body. What I found was fascinating.
I learned that if you trace back any one of our fears or limitations, they all branch from two main fears:
1.)the fear of not being loved
2.)the fear of not being good enough
These branches are answers to questions we indirectly ask ourselves like, "Why am I not being loved" and then "how do I know im not loved?" Well whenever we ask ourselves a question, whether directly or indirectly, our brain comes up with an answer.
The answers are often based on something from our past, but they do not have to be. Most of the time, they are not the correct answers. For example, if you ask yourself, "Why can't I lose weight?" You may get an answer like, "Because you're a pig." And you'll stop thinking. Now the answer is totally incorrect, but your brain has to come up with answers to your questions.
Another example:
"How do I know i'm not being loved?" You may get an answer like, "Because my wife/husband isn't doing (whatever)."
The problem is that these answers, these branches, become our beliefs and we focus on the last level of branches. By focusing on the answer our brain came up with, we are successfully kept from seeing the real issue.
But this is just the beginning. Beliefs set off a whole slew of other events within our brain. As a result, we become chemically inbalanced, and often resort to medication. There are mechanisms in our brain that are responsible for maintaining our current set of beliefs. The mechanisms are not negative, they only work with the material we feed them. If the beliefs we create and hold are negative, our results will be negative also.
Our objective is to cause these mechanisms to work in our favor.
One of these mechanisms is the Reticular Activating System. It is like a search engine for data that is relevant to our beliefs. It's what allows us to suddenly start noticing all the cars like the one we just bought. The cars were always there and our eyes always saw them, but it wasn't part of our searching system, so it was spit out as irrelevant instead of being sent to our conscious mind for recognition. It works the same way with depression and any other case. Our brain only let's us see what it is programmed to look for.
The next part we need to reset is the Psycho-Cybernetic Mechanism(PCM). It is a safetly mechanism that keeps us in our programmed comfort zones. This can be an abusive relationship. It might be sickness or depression. Remember, the brain works with the material it is fed...it's not biased to our wants or don't wants. When we step out of this pattern we're used to, this comfort zone, the PCM sends a chemical into our body that causes doubt, fear, and wow...anxiety.
Trying to control our fears and anxieties is futile. Resetting the comfort zone, is the solution.
To your success,
Dennis Andrew
NNOS Studios Motivational Speakers Division
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